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Exploring Queening in BDSM: A Regal Guide to Facesitting
Hey there, kink enthusiasts! Today, we’re diving into the practice of queening in BDSM. Also known as facesitting, queening is a thrilling way to explore power dynamics and intense pleasure. So, grab your crowns and let’s get started on this royal journey!
What is Queening?
Queening, or facesitting, involves one partner sitting on the other’s face for oral pleasure or dominance. It’s a fantastic way to assert control, provide intense stimulation, and build intimacy. Plus, it can be incredibly empowering for the person on top and intensely pleasurable for the person on the bottom.
A Brief History of Queening
While the term “queening” might sound modern, the practice itself has historical roots. Facesitting has been depicted in art and literature throughout history, often symbolizing power and dominance. Ancient texts and artifacts from various cultures hint at similar practices, showing that this form of intimate play has been around for centuries.
Different Methods and Tools Used
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Positions: There are various positions you can explore. The most common is the Dominant partner sitting directly on the submissive’s face, either facing forward or backward. You can also try a squatting position or use furniture to find a comfortable angle.
♛ Cushions and Pillows: Using cushions or pillows can make the experience more comfortable, especially for longer sessions. They provide support and help find the perfect height and angle.
♛ Furniture: Queening stools or chairs with open seats are specifically designed for this practice. They provide stability and comfort for both partners.
♛ Safety Tools: Always keep safety in mind. Have a safe word or signal in place, and ensure the bottom partner can breathe comfortably.
Tips for Discovering Queening
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Start Slow: If you’re new to queening, take it slow. Start with short sessions and gradually increase the duration as you become more comfortable.
♕ Experiment with Positions: Try different positions to find what feels best for both partners. Comfort and enjoyment are key.
♕ Use Mirrors: Placing a mirror nearby can add a visual element, enhancing the experience and allowing for better communication and positioning.
♕ Practice Safe Words: Always have a safe word or signal to ensure both partners can communicate any discomfort or the need to pause.
Communicating About Queening with Your Partner
Talking about queening might feel a bit daunting at first, but open communication is essential. Here’s how to bring it up:
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Start the Conversation: “I’ve been curious about trying queening. How do you feel about exploring facesitting together?”
♚ Discuss Boundaries: “Let’s talk about our boundaries and comfort levels. What positions do you think might work best for us?”
♚ Share Preferences: “I’d love to hear your thoughts on using cushions or a queening stool to make things more comfortable.”
♚ Check In: “How did that feel for you? Is there anything you’d like to change or try differently next time?”
Additional Resources
If you’re eager to learn more about queening, here are some resources to check out:
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Books: “The Ultimate Guide to Kink: BDSM, Role Play and the Erotic Edge” by Tristan Taormino includes sections on queening and other power play techniques.
♔ Websites: Sites like FetLife have forums and groups dedicated to queening where you can share experiences and get advice.
♔ Workshops and Classes: Look for local BDSM workshops or online classes that focus on power dynamics and techniques like queening.
♔ This Helpful Article: "Oral Sex is Uncomfortable? Queening Chairs Got You Covered!" by Finley Thompson
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Final Thoughts
Queening is a fantastic way to explore power dynamics and pleasure in BDSM. It’s all about communication, trust, and finding what feels good for both partners. So, whether you’re just curious or ready to don your crown, take your time, have fun, and enjoy the royal treatment.
Happy queening, kings and queens!
